A casual survey of students’ oral sex preferences published this week by the University of Connecticut’s student newspaper finds an inequality among genders when it comes to the acts.
With regard to fellatio after a first date, guys expect it – but as to first-date cunnilingus, that’s a no-fly zone, The Daily Campus reports.
“The only way it’s seen as good for guys to give head is if they get something good in return,” one female student is quoted as saying. “But there should be equality in it. There’s no guaranteed reciprocity because I’m supposed to focus on his orgasm, and that’s messed up.”
The survey, conducted by a paper “campus correspondent,” found most guys generally indicated they would only give a woman oral sex if they had been courting for a while.
“A student I asked reported that ‘it depends on the girl’ and that he would only perform oral sex if she was “clean or shaved and if I was dating her,’ ” notes The Daily Campus’ Imaani Cain.
It’s unclear how many students Cain interviewed to procure these results, but the article alludes to “many students” questioned about their preferences.
The survey also found some female college students believe there’s an imbalance when it comes to oral sex dynamics.
“Female students believed that there was more of a social stigma against giving head to women,” the article states. “One female student scoffed that it was seen as ‘subservient for guys to go down on girls …’ ”
“Guys see girls going down on them as an act of dominance, they want to assert to you that ‘they’re the man,’ ” the article continues. “In addition to this, there is also the opinion that a woman who gives blowjobs is ‘a total hoe, it means that she does a whole bunch of dudes probably.’ ”
The article ends with a summary of notions promulgated in most women’s studies classes at colleges today, stating “this thought process is mostly likely due to the surplus of media images that involve women performing fellatio on men, as opposed to it being the other way around. It is seen as ‘acceptable’ and ‘normal’ for women to give blowjobs, but the image of cunnilingus in film is still a fairly new concept.”
“However, this is directly contrasted with the patriarchal concept that women should enjoy embracing their sexuality, but should only do so to benefit and/or produce the male orgasm.”
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