Jennifer Kabbany - Fix Editor

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There wasn’t a lot left to the imagination at a recent sex-ed event at Lynchburg College earlier this week, when a guest lecture titled “How to be a Gentleman and Still Get Laid” included hands-on demonstrations on how to sexually pleasure the penis and vagina.

Self-described “Sex Geek” Reid Mihalko used a vulva puppet, the live-long-and-prosper V-shaped Spock hand gesture, and a rubbery-looking dildo to educate the packed audience of Virginia college students on the nuances of stimulating the male and female nether regions.

Among advice doled out with the vulva puppet? Get your partner excited before going for the hole too soon, according to an audience member.vulvapuppet

As for the dildo-assisted “Dick 101,” the students learned there are three main ways to touch a penis: gentle fingertip touching, moving the skin up and down over the penis, and grab the shaft firmly and move your hand in a circular motion, like stirring soup, according to Lauren Rentrop, a 20-year-old Virginia resident who attended the event and took notes on Mihalko’s comments and presentation on behalf of The College Fix.

“It was kind of interesting, I guess,” she said in an interview with The College Fix, but added the demos were not necessary. “It doesn’t hurt, everybody has awkward sex, it’s not the end of the world. It’s not that horrible of a thing for people to figure it out for themselves.”

The demos were part of a much larger lecture on “navigating consent, sexual freedom, partying, dating relationships, and what it means to be a man on campus,” according to a campus-wide email invite description of the event.

Mihalko, who bears an uncanny resemblance to actor-turned-born-again-Christian Stephen Baldwin, told the students he wanted to help them turn the “Walk of Shame” into the “Dance of Fame,” and used college-level humor and a disarming, vulnerable personality to tackle the sensitive subjects.

A big subject broached during the Monday night presentation was how to gain consent for sexual activity.

He told students to strive for open communication, have the courage to say what they want, and to ask permission and get a verbal “yes” before any sexual touching, which should help them get “mega laid.” He added if it’s a “maybe,” that’s a “no,” and that they should thank people for saying “no” and taking care of themselves because they “saved you a lot of grief.”

Find your “Hell, yeah!” which will also be their “Hell, yeah!” he told them. Let the activity be intoxicating, and “If you liked it, add it to your ‘Do It More’ list.” He also said that it’s OK not to like or not to be good at certain things, but don’t view porn as a way to educate on sex, that “watching porn to learn how to have sex is like watching ‘The Fast and the Furious’ to learn how to drive.” That great sex requires what porn doesn’t show.

He also taught students about a “Safer Sex Elevator Speech Script”:

When were you last tested and what is your status

Your sexual orientation and relationship status

Your sexual needs and protocols

Any risky encounters since last tested

What you like sexually

What you dislike sexually

End with, “How about you?”

To illustrate this concept to students, he gave them his elevator speech, which included telling the students his sexual orientation, the type of foreplay he likes and dislikes, and that he was tested three months ago.

Rentrop said she had mixed feelings about the presentation. She said while she thought there was good information presented at some points, the title was misleading. lcposter

“That part about ‘being a gentlemen’ was not doing anything uncomfortable, but it was just all about how to enhance the experience for you, and if somebody else isn’t completely comfortable with it, it’s not going to be all that great for you,” she said. “So it was more leaning toward that’s why you should do it, not toward that it was the right thing to do.”

She also questioned the appropriateness of the event.

“In high school they tell you don’t have sex, but if you are going to have sex get tested and use a condom, but this was like encouraging us to have sex and how to have sex and be good at sex,” she said. “I don’t think anybody, especially a university, should be encouraging people to have sex.”

Reached for comment Thursday, a university spokeswoman declined to talk on the event at this time. Mihalko did not respond to a request seeking comment.

On the college’s official Facebook page, a post on the event garnered mostly positive reviews.

“As the mother of a teen girl and tween boy, I attended the lecture to feel better prepared to talk to my children about the sexual culture on college campuses and to provide them with the knowledge to empower them,” one woman posted. “I found last night’s forum poignant and informative and essential. Sexual violence is an epidemic on college campuses. To see the ballroom packed with students eager to learn more about consent, caring and communication was inspiring to me. Thank you LC for your leadership on this important topic!”

“Excellent talk,” posted another. “As an alum, I haven’t come back to campus to hear any speakers since graduation. This engaging and dynamic speaker was worth the trip. I am glad to see that LC is willing to provide a forum for discussion of this topic, particularly to avoid ambiguity around consent to engage in sexual activities which I think we all can agree is very important.”

Not everyone was so thrilled, however, with one comment noting: “Am I the only parent… with a daughter in college … who finds this offensive?!”

During his trip to the private Virignia campus, Mihalko also gave guest lectures during the day on “Healing Sexual Shame,” “It’s Hard To Kill People When You’re Cuddling: How Low Touch Societies and Sexual Shame Increase Conflict, Violence, and War,” and a “Rape Culture/Privilege/Slut Shaming – Interactive Class.”

For those who missed Mihalko’s Virginia appearance, according to the calendar on his website he is set to give a “Negotiating Successful Threesomes” talk on Oct. 1 and a “Blowjobs and Beyond” workshop on Oct. 2 at a sex toy shop in New Mexico.

UPDATED: The day after this article published, Mihalko responded to The College Fix‘s questions via email. He stated in part:

Pleasurable, consensual touch, both sexual and non-sexual, are very important tools for creating healthy, intimate relationships. I use puppets and marital aids in my lectures to lessen cultural shame around our bodies and to educate men and women on how to better pleasure their partners.

With the rates of sexual assault on campus skyrocketing, college campuses need to take a pro-active role in giving all students access to accurate sexual health information and the communication and emotional skills to it takes to have thriving, healthy, loving relationships. Colleges and universities need to give their students the skills they will need when they decide to start having sex to have healthy, thriving, intimate relationships. Talking frankly about sex, sexual self-confidence, and intimacy is role modeling for students that it’s okay for them to speak frankly and honestly to each other about these topics, which will help lessen sexual assault on campus and in students’ lives even after college. If the colleges and universities don’t make frank discussions about sex available, they are inadvertently encouraging sexual assault on their campuses and in the future lives of their alumni, and it doesn’t have to be that way.

Jennifer Kabbany is editor of The College Fix. (@JenniferKabbany)

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This made the Front page of Reddit on Wednesday under the “WTF” category.

It’s a photo of a promotional poster for a University of Arizona campus cafe that boasts a hot chocolate drink adorned with a “gender neutral marshmallow snow being.”

And you thought campus political correctness couldn’t get any more ridiculous. Either that, or they’re trying to be funny. And if so, Mission Accomplished.

It’s obviously a dated shot, but a current University of Arizona student told The College Fix they’ve seen the poster in the past and it’s legit.

“Yeah! That shop has been doing that since I started at UA but it’s been replaced by this Louisiana themed cafe called CCs. I’ll let you know if they do it again! Or something similar.”

Apparently the poster always created a buzz.

“I honestly don’t know what it was. It was never explained, no one ever talked about it,” the student adds. “Every time the sign would come up people would explode social media, no one ever responded. I always just thought it was a marketing thing, funny, shock factor or just gender equality.”

Or they took the customer is always right mantra waaaayyy too far.

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“I have seen Indiana’s future, and it is Haiti.”

So says Fran Quigley, clinical professor of law at the Health and Human Rights Clinic at Indiana University’s School of Law.

And apparently he’s totally serious.

Even more ridiculous? He blames the state’s heartless Republican politicians with their fiscally conservative, pro-business policies in an op-ed in The Palladium-Item newspaper:

Port-au-Prince and the surrounding countryside and villages represent a tea party fantasyland, a magical place with a rock-bottom minimum wage for workers, massive deforestation without consequence, privatized infrastructure and virtually nonexistent public safety or government health care.

In other words, the manifestation of the Indiana Republican agenda. The party’s 2014 platform includes more than a dozen references to government as bogeyman, identified as “intrusive,” an “impediment” and “unsustainable.” In the area of employment, the GOP makes its feelings known in a way that applies just as much to the platform’s views on education and the environment: “The proper role for government in this equation is to get out of the way.”

This is not just rhetoric. The party that holds the governor’s office and substantial majorities in both the House and Senate has applied its anti-government philosophy to some very real decisions. A few months ago, Republican leaders celebrated a $2 billion state surplus, amassed despite reduced tax revenue. “By living within our means, keeping prudent reserves and identifying areas of potential growth, we can continue to make Indiana the fiscal envy of the nation,” state Auditor Suzanne Crouch announced.

It turns out “living within our means” translates into a policy of forced reversions that prevent state agencies from spending their full budgets. Is belt-tightening still a virtue when it means that domestic violence prevention funds go unused, home care resources are not provided to seniors, and environmental protection programs are held back?

Oh, the horror! The horror! State agencies not being able to spend their full budgets?! Environmental protection programs held back?! Why, how do those evil Republicans live with themselves?!

This guy is so far off base it’s hard to even take him seriously. But keep in mind, he’s out there teaching students, filling their heads with this nonsense.

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“The O’Reilly Factor” sent Jesse Watters to Kenmore Square next to Boston University to ask young people about their ISIS strategy. The results? A mixed bag that offers a great glimpse into the wide variety of students found at most colleges across the nation. Some are clueless, some are misguided, and some actually know what is going on in this world and can speak with astonishing clarity and common sense.

As always, Watters’ video is hilarious and telling, in which a “couple young ladies even suggested that we were at war with ‘the Icelandic State’ or some strange place called ‘Pakistanian,'” Fox News reports.

Watch the video:

Introducing the Committee to Rescind Asinine/Archaic Procedures, or C.R.A.P. Although its name makes it sound like a fantasy for bureaucracy-loathing hawks, it’s a legitimate group at West Virginia University.

“While the acronym is tongue in cheek, the Committee to Rescind Asinine/Archaic Procedures (C.R.A.P.) represents an institution-wide initiative to identify policies, procedures, practices, and processes that can be made more efficient,” the university’s website states.

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“Some compliance requirements are driven by federal or state laws, but many other existing requirements on campus are driven by forgotten history, by convenience to a limited constituency, by quests for unnecessary enforcement and by the patchwork evolution of communication and authority at an institution with diverse activities,” it adds. “The Committee will make every effort to identify ways in which our community can improve clarity, efficiency and effectiveness of policies and procedures both to promote compliance and to reduce the faculty and staff time spent in bureaucratic shuffles.”

The committee consists of a dozen campus employees, including professors, IT officials and campus administrators. West Virginia University officials did not respond to a request by The College Fix to learn more about this committee, what it does, what victories its had, and the like.

But the fact that it exists at all puts a smile on our face.

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A newly released online docu-drama stars Duke University student Miriam Weeks, the world’s most famous porn star of the moment.

“In the series, Weeks is portrayed as a sweet, insecure young woman grappling with her two identities – student and sex worker,” Fox News reports. “Instead of episodes, the series is broken down into 5 chapters like ‘#pornstarproblems,’ and ‘How to Hustle in the Sex Industry.’ It’s a raw glimpse into a seedy, sex-saturated world showing everything from Knox getting tested for STDs to discussing how she towels off after sexual acts, to the struggle of attending school, where she says she is cyberbullied.”

Perhaps the best analysis of this series so far comes from LifeSite’s Jonathon Van Maren, a culture wars columnist who apparently watched the series and summed it up in a gripping way, illustrating that while Belle Knox claims porn has empowered her – her eyes, words and stories tell a much different, darker tale:

“The sex industry has a way of making you very cynical and very bitter,” a tired-looking Weeks tells an off-camera interviewer, “In a way I’ve started to become kind of a bit bitter and a bit cynical.”

Why? ” … I think my experiences have aged me. I don’t have the mind of an eighteen-year-old. I have the emotional baggage of someone much, much older than me.” …

Listening to Miriam tell her story, it boggles my mind that people can still defend the porn industry, or call it “empowering” or “the way the world should be.”

Miriam herself admits that her first scene, shot for a company she refers to as “Facial Abuse,” was “a really, really rough scene. I wasn’t prepared for how rough it was. It was weird having some random photographer watch me have my a** kicked on camera.” She talks about getting literally torn up during porn shoots. She admits that porn shoots in which she was physically beaten up until she sobbed were probably shoots she should have refused. Yet she didn’t. …

For one shoot, Miriam recalls almost tearfully, her agent wouldn’t tell her who she had to “work with.” When she arrived at the set, she realized he was fifty years old. She wanted to leave, but then she’d have to pay a 300 dollar “kill fee,” the director would have been furious, and, she says, she could never have worked for that company again. So she did it.

“I felt like crying during the entire scene and afterwards I was really, really upset,” Miriam says tearfully to the camera, looking like nothing more than the hurting 18-year-old girl she is. “I just thought of my mom, who was always there for me and always protected me…I think about my mom a lot when I do porn scenes. Just how sad she would be that her little daughter was doing this.”

… Miriam Weeks, we see in her heart-breaking interviews, is just a hurting 18-year-old girl being used by an industry that takes girls like her, exploits their insecurities, promises them empowerment, and then subjects them to abuse and degradation until they can’t handle it any more. Then the carnivorous recruiters simply go out looking for fresh flesh to feed the baying cannibalistic mob, burning with insatiable lust and shouting their demands for new girls, new girls to degrade and discard.

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